Writing a Guy Who Hasn’t Written You PDF
Is it OK for a woman to make the first move online?
Definitely. Most guys almost NEVER get messages from women, so it makes you stand out.
BUT you do have to be emotionally ready either not to receive a response or to be let down easy. (Or not so easy.)
(It’ll give you a whole new appreciation for what guys go through.)
A Good Message To A Guy Includes…
- A sign that you’ve actually read his profile.
- A question.
- (As a woman you might also be able to get away with a simple “hey =)” but let’s not go there.)
- A non-sexual compliment can be OK.
Example:
Carol: “Hi, I’m Carol. I noticed you’re a hiker. Quick question for you; what’s the scariest or funniest moment you ever had on a hike? I’ve got a great story but I want to hear yours first =)”
Mark: “Hi Carol, nice to ‘meet’ you. My son actually sprained his ankle on Mount Rainer last summer. That was a LONG walk home. What about you? (Also, I see you’re a Uw fan. Me too.)”
And they’re off!
If You Don’t Get A Response…
- Not a big deal. It could just be bad timing. It could be that he hasn’t logged in. It could be that he and his ex-wife are getting back together but it’s really not about YOU.
- Wait at least 2 weeks before writing the same guy again. If you still don’t get a response then it simply wasn’t mean to be.
- Fortune favors the bold. Your chances of finding love go way up if you take initiative.
- Just because this one guy isn’t interested in you doesn’t mean you aren’t interesting.
- It’s a GAME.
If you get a bad response…
Sometimes guys will try to be “nice” and will send either a clipped response (cutting off conversation) or a “let you down easy response.”
Mark: “Thanks for the message.”
Or
Mark: “Hi Carol, thanks for the message. You seem really interesting but you don’t really fit what I’m look for right now. Good luck in your search!”
Either way…
- You don’t have to respond.
- You shouldn’t take it personally (it’s not about you.)
- Don’t try to force the issue.
Next Video: Going from Online to In-Person
