Rules of Email Flirting
Your actual goal is to get to the point of meeting up in person as quickly as possible. (No point wasting your time if there’s no chemistry or if he’s actually imaginary.)
If at all possible you want HIM to ask YOU out. (Always better if the guy feels like he’s taking initiative.)
If emailing goes on for more than a week it’s suspect. If it goes on longer than 2 weeks it’s hopeless. Move on.
How Good Conversations Flow…
Him: Answers the question from your profile and asks you a question…
You: Answer and new question that’s related to the first question…
Him: Answer and new question (same subject or a subject change.)
You: Repeat as necessary or use conversation ender.
(Add in compliments/teases/flirtation as necessary.)
How “Nonversations” Work…
Him: “HI.”
Her: “Hi =)”
(And then nothing happens.)
If nobody asks a question, a conversation never actually happens.
Putting all the “responsibility” to come up with a topic on a guy is rude.
Asking questions makes you approachable and interesting. (Duh.)
Here’s an example from your handout…
Steve: “Hey, I read and liked your profile & your pretty pictures of course. =) To answer your question, the last great book I read was The Great Gatsby. Had to brush up before seeing the movie, lol. Check me out & hope you like my profile too. Btw, I’m Steve. It’s nice to meet you.”
Shannon: “Hi Steve. I’m Shannon. The Great Gatsby is one of my favorites. I’m curious what you though of the movie? Warning: I’m a big Baz Luhrmann fan so that should factor in your reply. haha.”
If you want to keep a conversation rolling, ALWAYS ask a question at the end of your message.
Types of Questions To Ask…
- Sports (if you like sports and see he does too.)
- Activities in common.
- Travel
- Music, movies, literature whatever else it says on his profile.
- Bait questions: “If I were a genie and could grant you three wishes, what would they be?” (See handout for more.)
What if a guy sends you a conversation staller or didn’t follow instructions??
“Hi! I must tell you that I think you have a killer smile. Hope you are having a great day! – David”
“Hey David. Thanks for the compliment. I see from your profile you went to WSU. I have to tell you that, as a UW grad, it was iffy whether I’d reply to you. But you have a killer smile as well, so I gave you the benefit of the doubt. Any bets on who will win this year’s Apple Cup? – Shannon”
See the handout for more examples.
- Too many questions. (Pick the best on e and answer it. Ignore the rest.)
- Poorly written. “U R Howt Wimmun” (Ignore.)
- Out of age range. (But still attractive.)
- Remember: If you don’t want to talk to a guy you do’t have to talk to him. It’s OK.
Next Video: How To Write A Guy and How To Go From Virtual To Physical
