If You Followed Our Profile Formula You’ve Got a Profile that…
- Oozes confidence.
- Comes across as happy, optimistic and fun to hang out.
- Talks about how wonderful you are with no “Wigwam” words.
- Shows good (but accurate) pictures of who you are and what you look like.
- Shows that you’re not a potential “victim.”
- Lays out what kind of guy should get in touch (and what kind of guy should jump off a bridge.)
If we’ve done our job right you’re going to start getting a bunch of emails and you’re going ot have to learn how to sort those emails quickly.
The Level 1 Filter…
- If a guy goes “sexy” in the first message, just block him.
- If a guy seems like a scammer (see earlier module) block him.
- If a guy obviously didn’t read your profile or answer the question you put in your profile, don’t respond to him.
- If a guy ever sends a message that is insulting, misogynistic or otherwise hateful, block him.
A quick note on blocking and “online politeness.”
You don’t owe a guy on an online dating site a message back.
Yes, this might make a nice guy sad, but like I always say “Often times the cruelest thing you can do is try to be kind.”
Much like being a public figure, putting yourself online means having a thicker skin.
“For you to insult me I’d have to value your opinion first.”
The silent treatment once you’re actually dating a guy is cowardly, but at this phase of online dating it’s the best policy.
Level 2 Filter: Warning Signs On A Guy’s Profile…
- Pictures of himself with other women. (Read the captions.)
- Shirtless pictures with his guitar. (Seriously.)
- Badly lit pictures. Inability to write in complete sentences. Obviously didn’t put any real work into his profile.
Level 3 Filter: Does He Start A Conversation With You Or Just Make a Statement with Nowhere to go?
Conversation opener: “I see you’re a fan of Douglas Addams. Did you like ‘Dirk Gently’ or ‘Hitchhiker’s Guide’ better?”
Conversation staller: “You’ve got nice eyes.”
Just because a guy writes you with a conversation staller doesn’t mean he’s not worth your time, but you should reward the guy who actually did the work to read your profile and say something relevant.
What to do now…
Download the “Email Criteria Judgement Matrix” (What a name!)
Go watch the next video where we talk about how to respond to men online.
